It seems social distancing and increased downtime for many Australians equates to more screen time. Not a week goes by when cyber-related challenges aren't raised in the counselling room.
The most common areas for concern discussed in counselling are:
If you have children, there are some great online safety quizzes to check their understanding around sharing their images, giving out their information and what to do about online bullying. It could save their life.
I totally love we've become even more connected and technology is a life-line during a pandemic. Long-distance relationships are enhanced with it and those living or travelling abroad feel closer than ever. In day-to-day life, however, screens are often an unwanted third person in the relationship. When both partners are screen-addicted, it's some sort of crazy foursome where the only real connection is the charging port that sustains this unhealthy attachment.
It's not just our children with whom we need to have sensible discussions. We also need to communicate with our partners. Here are some topics to ask each other:
Enjoy the wonders of technology to be entertained, organised and informed, but if you're withholding information from your partner about your screen use, it's your red flag.
May any downtime feature a healthy balance of enjoying others, exercising outside and whatever else fills you with joy during a pandemic!
Watch this space next week as I contemplate if social distancing increases the use of pornography?
Joanne Wilson is a neuropsychotherapist, relationship specialist, workshop facilitator and guest speaker. Tune into radio Salt106.5 each Friday morning for her co-host of the Morning Wakeup. Don’t miss more on her weekly Sunshine Coast Daily Relationship articles in her “Is This Love” Podcast and download your FREE relationship resources at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com
Not a week goes by when cyber related challenges are raised in the Counselling room. I was relieved to notice there is now a Safer Internet Day each year, being tomorrow, Tuesday 5 February.
Safer Internet Day’s mission is to promote the safe and responsible use of technology for young people. What a great day therefore to raise awareness in your household as it sure needs attention for your relationships and boundaries for children.
In my experience, the most common areas for concern discussed in Counselling are:
If you have children, there are some great online safety quizzes to check their understanding about sharing their images, giving out their information and what to do about online bullying. It could save their life.
I totally love that we’ve become even more connected thanks to technology. Long distance relationships are enhanced with it and those living or travelling abroad feel closer than ever. In day to day life however, screens are often an unwanted third person in the relationship. When both partners are screen addicted, it’s some sort of crazy foursome where the only real connection is the charging port that sustains this unhealthy attachment.
There is also a need for a sensible discussion for couples. Here are some topics to ask each other:
Enjoy the wonders of technology to be entertained, organised and informed but if you’re withholding information from your partner about your screen use, it’s your red flag.
Joanne Wilson is the weekly columnist for the Sunshine Coast Daily Weekend magazine, weekly radio guest, professional relationship counsellor and certified clinical neuropsychotherapy practitioner of TheConfidante Counselling. She is based on the Sunshine Coast, Queensland - Australia. You can contact her at: www.theconfidantecounselling.com or email HERE.
Any trends resonate with you? Would love to know your innovative strategies for managing screen time:
Technology advancing at lightening speed has a great impact on the way people do things. It is not only businesses that use social media to market their products but the way people communicate have also changed dramatically. Many people are using social media networks as the main channels of communications. Billions of dollars are being spent on social media every year targeting singles and couples alike and this is a clear indicator on how active people are in terms of social networking. However, 67% of respondents in the last Relationships Australia Relationships Indicator Survey who said they frequently feel lonely regularly use SMS as a method of communicating with friends, family and/or a potential partner. Such networks as Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Flickr, Instagram, Google+ etc. are among the most active social media networks.
There are different ways on how you can prevent social media from breaking your relationship with your partner, family members or friends. Some of these include:
In Counselling, we encourage people to create their own customized rules to prevent social media infiltrating their relationships and use it to enhance their connection. Here are some ideas for setting boundaries that we've found effective:
Wonder what ideas you can contribute?
If you have Children, model behaviour and respect for others you would hope they will reflect - especially when they are teenagers! As much as social media is an effective tool in strengthening relationships, it can also lead to their demise. Be responsible for everything you post, comment or share. Be responsible on social media usage!
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Joanne will be your Confidante, enabling you to speak freely in complete confidence and serenity. An integrated approach tailored to your specific needs will be utilised. Approaches such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Solution Focussed Therapy and Emotionally Focussed Therapy may be incorporated.
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