THE DEATH OF MARRIAGE COUNSELLORS?

​As a specialist in Relationship Therapy, how could you not resist picking up a book, “First, Kill all the Marriage Counselors”?
 
It turns out, what a great read! The author Laura Doyle,  self-described “feminist and former shrew” only consults with females in troubled relationships. She provides Six Intimacy Skills to support women with insight to evaluate their own attitudes and behaviour that she advises men are usually reacting to!
 
Whilst this one is for the chicks, I know you blokes will want to take a peek: 
 
Doyle’s very candid and rather witty book eludes that she has personally experienced Marriage Therapists as too controlling and directive instead of taking a more nurturing coaching style. Here’s my overview of her Six Intimacy Skills:
 
SKILL ONE: REPLENISH YOUR SPIRIT WITH SELF CARE

1. Make a list of 20 things that delight you and carve out time to do 3 things in the next week. (You are encouraged to make more time for this, do what you enjoy and be responsible for getting your work done.)
2. Focus on your own desires. It's not your partners job to make you happy. Entertain the ideas of your list of "I want....." Instead of why you can't or it won't work. You absolutely can overcome resistance or fear of jumping to conclusions as to why it's impossible.  
3. Express your desires in the way that inspires. "I would love it if..." Take out the "you"...
4. Girl chat. Call a trusted friend who can also support your own desires. 

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