Questions for a connected 2019...

First article for the year and my first chance to throw out some wonderful ideas to stay close and connected to your partner through to 2019.

Why not carve out a moment in time during the next few days without distraction from any children, family and friends and turn toward each other. Use eye contact and intentionally engage to be present and open to possibilities. If there are responses or ideas you don’t agree with, enquire further and deepen your understanding instead of attempting to defend or shut down.

I can’t count the number of brave blokes that reveal they struggle with the right responses and conversation with their adoring female whose words flow freely and with magnitude - so here’s your guide. I know some will be tempted to uncomfortably retort with ridiculous and humorous answers but try also to be real and genuine for this time intended for closeness and connection:

1. What do you want less of in 2019?
2. What do you long for?
3. What has been the biggest drag for you this year?
4. What are you dreaming about most right now?
5. How can I help you this week?
6. How do you describe me to people who haven’t met me?
7. What are your favourite ways to spend time with me?
8. When were you last truly happy? What happened?
9. What is the best way I can show you I love you this coming year?
10. How can we unite to impact our world with more kindness?

 
I so relish the concept of new possibilities for 2019 in striving toward using your talents to even more potential. This includes levelling up your relationship and growing together for that flourishing dynamic you should expect.

Why not use the magical word “no” to a few activities to just “be” together? Block out some white space on your calendars for spontaneous nothingness. If you do head out socialising, tune in regularly with a reassuring pat or eye contact with your partner in amongst the hum of the group. Most of all, if you get to slow down at this time of year, be mindful of your daily interactions with respect and kindness. This is one of the keys to a great relationship moving forward.

If you’re single, it’s my desire you can fully enjoy this season in your life. If you seek to meet someone, strive to work on the best version of yourself to enhance your chances of joining forces with the best partner you deserve.

Finally, to get the best things, we often need to do hard things. Life includes pain so we can choose the pain of discipline of the pain of disappointment. Nothing happens without discipline!

I can’t wait to support individuals and couples either in my Counselling room or as readers of the Sunshine Coast Daily Weekend magazine in our community this year.

​Joanne Wilson is the weekly columnist for the Sunshine Coast Daily Weekend magazine, weekly radio guest, professional relationship counsellor and certified clinical neuropsychotherapy practitioner of TheConfidante Counselling. She is based on the Sunshine Coast, Queensland - Australia. You can contact her at: www.theconfidantecounselling.com or email HERE.

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