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Dare to revisit some of your biggest blunders or crazy arguments in your relationship. Did any occur when one or both of you were under the influence of alcohol? Have you or your partner ever been busted watching porn and what was the reaction?
Particularly in Australia, it is widely accepted that alcohol is a mandatory aspect of celebrating, de-stressing or basically, it’s just what we do! It is often used as a scapegoat for, “Oh well, I can’t remember” or, “I didn’t mean to say that - I was just drunk.” Does alcohol cause you or your partner to be more sensitive, irrational, defensive or even aggressive during your discussions? It does affect our social interaction even when drinking moderately. A way too large of a proportion of my couple work involves a drinking addiction unveiled by one or both people. Many agree that if alcohol wasn’t featured, they wouldn't even be in relationship therapy. In my book, Renovate Your Relationship, I also discuss the benefits of consulting with your partner about the use of pornography. Both partners’ values and views need to be explored. We are all well aware this current generation is exposed to and desensitised to graphic sexual acts on average at aged 12. No wonder the wave of early-onset erectile dysfunction (when males are unable to become aroused with their partner unless viewing hardcore videos at the same time on their handheld device). It naturally then can attribute to the fracture in their relationship. Not to mention, the loneliness attributed to countless hours of lost time when one is consumed thinking about porn and unable to be emotionally present with loved ones. Good on theFrench who are moving toward legislation to oblige pornography sites to effectively control the age of viewers on their sites this year. Recent research confirms that those who either compulsively or curiously use pornography, find they are much happier and healthier without it. Whilst, it is worth seeing an addiction therapist to receive essential support, here are some helpful approaches to interrupt the unhealthy patterns that inhibit your relationship
5. Replacement: What new activity can you replace the endorphin hit such as daily gym work, running, learning a new skill, or attending a new class that also starts to build your new life?
6. Socialise: ensure you have connectivity with the community either through support groups to gain warmth, empathy and acceptance from others. Read more on my previous blogs on this topic: The Risk Of Being Too Risque Physical Distancing and Pornogrpahy Other helpful resources: Your Brain on Porn: Gary Wilson Helpful Podcasts on Porn and Sex Addiction Quit Like A Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Society Obsessed with Alcohol Holly Whittaker The Easy Way to Stop Drinking: Allen Carr Joanne Wilson is the Relationship Rejuvenator and author of Renovate Your Relationship – All The DIY Tools For Your Most Important Project ($29.99). She is a neuropsychotherapist inspiring the community for thriving and dynamic relationships that impact generations for mental well-being. Find out more about her online courses at www.relationshiprejuvenator.com Photo by Sara Ben Aziza on Unsplash |
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Joanne will be your Confidante, enabling you to speak freely in complete confidence and serenity. An integrated approach tailored to your specific needs will be utilized. Approaches such as Psychobiological Approach to Couple's Therapy (PACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy may be incorporated.
Joanne WilsonRelationship Specialist for individuals and Couples online around the world and servicing areas for virtual sessions around Australia and servicing many clients in Queensland including Caloundra, Noosa, Noosaville, Buderim, Mountain Creek, Gympie.
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