The five love languages

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Good on you - Let's start the Quick Self-Evaluation Quiz

Simple concept!

Rate yourself between 1-10 for each question on how YOU contribute to your relationship.
1 = You're not so great
10 = You're awesome
.... and anywhere in between!

How accomplished are you at...?

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1. Knowing what makes your partner feel truly loved? (Is it touch? kind words? something else?) *

2. Understanding their perspective? (You’re able to see situations from your partner’s point of view.) *

11. Seeking and allowing individuality? (Common interests are important but do you allow space for you and your partner to take time out alone?) *

12. Managing finances? (Our early experiences shape our values about money. Do you ensure you have the same financial goals but still allow independence?) *

3. Being assertive? (Your ability to express your feelings and ask for what you want.) *

13. Do your fair share of responsibilities? (You may not divide every task equally, but overall, the division of labour in your relationship is roughly equal.) *

4. Taking an interest in what’s important to your spouse? (You attentively ask about their day.You know what makes them stressed, excited or sad and can support them accordingly.) *

5. Forgiveness. (You can recover from disagreements within a reasonable time frame and put it behind you.) *

14. Trustworthiness? (You are reliable and someone your partner can confide in and keep it to yourself.) *

15. Introducing your partner to new and positive experiences? (You introduce your partner to new friends or activities, or share with them your new favourite TV shows or books.) *

6. Instigating fun? (You make an effort to do things together that you both find fun.) *

16. Boosting your partner? (You’re not expected to constantly prop up your partner, but can you help your partner appreciate their good qualities they don't fully recognise?) *

7. Compliments? (You might think them, but do you speak words of praise, draw, paint, write, email or text them?) *

17. Being their No 1 Fan? (You’re there at home base supporting your spouse, helping launch their individual success.) *

8. Picking up on your partner’s cues when they need support? (You notice when your partner needs extra care, and provide a type of support your partner finds soothing.) *

18. Listening? (You give your partner your full attention, eye contact and put your screen down!) *

9. Empathizing? (You genuinely care when your partner is going through a tough time.) *

19. Greeting your partner warmly? (Wouldn’t it be great if we treated our partner like the family dog when they see us? When you say hello or goodbye to them, you do it with emotional warmth.) *

10. Managing your own stress? (Stress can be positive to spur action but negative stress too often can impact your relationship.) *

20. Understanding your partner? (You know what makes your partner tick—their goals, hopes and dreams!) *

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